This is the first in a 3-part series about how our minds work. Click here for part two and click here for part three.


If you’re a type-A, action-oriented, busy businessperson (like myself), you’re probably used to being in control (and being right). I’m not sure if I’ve ever met a successful business owner who does not have an innate drive (if not an outright need) for control. It helps keep quality high, move your business in the direction you’ve envisioned, and become or remain profitable. Let’s face it; being a control freak gets results.

Sometimes though, our need for control can be detrimental. It causes problems in relationships, makes others feel we are argumentative or intractable, and too often leads to everyone’s favorite management technique: micromanaging. (Just kidding–I know micromanaging is horrible.)

One of the hardest things about leadership is that it’s often the things we’re not aware of that have the biggest impact on those around us. The brain is very much like a computer functioning on if/then commands. Unfortunately, those if/then commands (mental programs) are often way out-of-date. A destructive desire for control is a great example of useful programming gone bad.


So how do we reprogram our brains to produce better results?